In case you didn’t know, I recently wrote my first blog post in 2 years, declaring “I’ve given up on sex and romance and gone to Colombia” and then the universe delivered a man to me that very same day. Perhaps I manifested it; earlier in the day I saw this ADORABLE lesbian couple in my hostel and said out loud, “I wish I could … Continue reading I gave up on sex and then slept with a Colombian guy on the beach
Probably not the wisest thing to declare on a sex and dating blog (don’t worry, I still have upcoming sex discourse to keep you entertained), but I’ve quit my job and now I am looking out at the mountains from an ecolodge in Colombia. I’ve hit that classic 30-plus stage of life where you question your existence so far, and then decide to run away … Continue reading I’ve given up on sex and romance and gone to Colombia
This is an old date story, but I think the lessons learnt here are still relevant. Back when I used to date and use apps, I would ask a filter question before meeting up with anyone I.R.L. to gauge their political beliefs and check if we’re on the same wavelength. This guy was maybe two years younger than me, but he seemed cute. I had … Continue reading Please don’t ask for feedback after a date
A friend of mine, who still uses dating apps, wanted a way to weed out the people she wouldn’t gel with. She had something along the lines of: You should *not* go out with me if you are… a Tory or “not political” As a fellow woman of colour, I get why my friend wrote that. Let’s face it, politics – as in the institutions … Continue reading Men explain politics to me
What a fucking wild ride the last two years have been for everyone. I’ve not written a single post in 2021, and instead have taken the time to think about what matters to me, like most people have. Lockdown seasons 1-3 have been horrible and I hope we never have another one again. I also got bloody Omicron recently, which gave me some time to … Continue reading Hello 2022: the end of my flop era. (Hopefully…)
This incident took place in late June, soon after we were allowed to leave our house for sex. Or maybe we weren’t by this point? I, like many of you, have struggled to keep up with the incomprehensible rules set out by our fuckwit government. However, I really did spend the lockdown not going out much and definitely not having sex face-to-face with a second … Continue reading Another tale of cis-het-white-male fuckery
He lived on a boat but I made him use my shower and scrub his fingernails clean before we even kissed. ANYWAY, this was probably my funniest sex story for a while. And at least he wasn’t a racist. The date We agreed to meet outside the pub and I had sent him my location. As I approached the pub, I saw a VERY HOT … Continue reading I fucked a circus performer who hadn’t showered for two days
It’s been a difficult few weeks with some difficult conversations. Speaking up about racism is the right thing to do, and Black lives matter. ALL Black lives matter, that will never be a debate. But sadly, talking about racism can be really triggering for Black people and other people of colour and it brings up some horrible memories. I’ve been really frank and honest with … Continue reading Shitty racist stuff men have said to me
Like most singletons during this global pandemic, I’m horny as FUCK. Also scared. Really scared, actually. Eternally anxious too. A bit bored as well. Partly due to that last one, I’ve been driven to excessive Hinging during these unprecedented times. As a result, I’ve noticed some common mistakes in men’s dating app profiles, so I’m going to give you all some tips to improve your … Continue reading How to not suck at Hinge
I got knocked up because I fucked an idiot. Here’s what happened to me, along with my tips for what you could do if you need an abortion, and my rant about what a patronising prick my gynaecologist was. Pregnancy is SHIT. I have a new found appreciation for all the women of the world who chose to allow a parasite human to grow inside … Continue reading That time I had an abortion (two months ago)
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