I had really drunk sex with a guy last weekend and my mooncup was definitely still in when he tried to put his penis in there. Sadly, I don’t remember much of what happened that night. All I know is that I woke up in the morning feeling like death only to find a boy in my bed. I haven’t been that drunk and blacked out during sex since uni, so it took me a really long time to process what had happened.

Anyway, by the time I realised I still had my mooncup in from the night before, he had left, which was probably a good thing because I then proceeded to throw up for the rest of the day. But I did wonder if he noticed the little stem poking into the tip of his penis every time he thrusted. And he was pretty girth-y so I’d be surprised if he missed it.

There was also blood smeared all over my white bedding, but I didn’t spot any on him. Then again I was probably still too drunk to notice. Thank fuck for Vanish Oxi Action – every thing was as good as new with one scoop of that in my wash.*

Although there are days where I just want to sit at home and have a period in peace, in general I have no issues with period sex, so I thought back to some of my period sex highlights:

1. I once started my period during sex…sat on a guy’s face.

When I realised, I wiped his chin off with a tissue and told him. He was super chill about it though so that was nice. It was a complete surprise to me because I had taken my pill that day, but I guess my uterus lining was like, “nahhh fam, today is MY day.”

I was surprised by just how bloody it got though, so I did some research. Turns out that orgasms cause the uterus wall to contract, which prompts the lining to shed. I can’t find any legit sources for this yet, but I read it in several articles so it must be true, right? It would explain a lot though – even on what is meant to be my lightest days, having an orgasm makes my vagina turn into this:

2. I once ruined an Air BnB mattress and the guy still cleaned it for me and offered to buy me tampons.

The great thing about period sex is that it’s just extra lube! I do love lube. At first, I didn’t realise I had started my period because I thought I was just super turned on. When he pulled out, I just assumed it was semen, until I got up and noticed the bedding. And this is what annoys me about men who find period sex gross – there are SO MANY bodily fluids involved during sex, why is this the one that freaks you out so much?! People need to get over it.

That was the first time I was with someone long enough to get to period sex stage, so I’m glad that he reacted so well. His first reaction was to offer to get me tampons, and then he told me to go shower while he cleaned up the bed. It definitely set the bar for how I expect men to react to this stuff – if you’re mature enough to have sex you should be mature enough to handle the fact that you will occasionally be exposed to a woman’s shed uterus lining. That’s life.

Btw, getting the stain out of the mattress was actually impossible (they should have used a mattress protector!!) but I don’t think the host noticed as I still got a 5 star rating. Or maybe they did notice, but they’re just super progressive and cool about periods?

3. I told my one night stand I was on my period and he still wanted to go down on me.

To be fair, it was on my light day, so there was very little risk of it getting too messy, but he didn’t know that, so good for him for going down there anyway. It also helps when men know that the clitoris, where the orgasms happen, is in a completely different place to the vagina, where the blood happens.

We also used tons of toys in between the penetration stuff, so that would be my top tip if you’re feeling a little insecure about a man reaching around with his tongue down there.

What do my girl friends think?

I took a small sample size of my best mates and asked them about periods and sex. None of them gave a shit. One of my friend leaves a tampon in when a guy is going down on her, and takes it out for the penetration part. On the whole, most of my female friends were for it. (When you wanna bang, you wanna bang, ya know?)

Some preferred not to because their periods made them feel physically rubbish. I understand that; it’s hard to feel sexy when you’re bloated or your vagina is actually a Game Of Thrones episode – regardless of whether or not you’re on your period.

But if you do feel like it’s “gross” or “disgusting” to have sex on your period, then maybe you should re-examine your views and ask yourself why you feel that way. I’m not saying you HAVE to have sex on your period though – just do what you feel comfortable doing!

What do my straight male friends think?

I’m not saying we should give too much of a shit about what straight men think, but I was curious. All of my male friends said there was nothing wrong with it, and most of them said they didn’t mind. Some were very pragmatic and said, “just put a towel down and get on with it.” Others said if you knew someone for a long time and liked them, nothing should get in the way.

Interestingly, a lot of them also picked up on the fact that women have high sex drives during their periods. Apparently, there are hormonal changes that happen during the mensuration cycle that make this happen.

I’m so glad that none of them said “ewwww gross, that’s nasty” but then again, we’re all in our mid-twenties so should have learnt where babies come from by now, and I also don’t associate with people who suck. Well done men, there’s hope for you yet!

And the moral of the story is…

Ladies, if you want to have period sex, have period sex! If you don’t, then don’t! Either way, period sex is not gross and horrible, it’s just a little messy but that’s what washing machines and mattress protectors are for.

* Promise I’m not getting paid by Vanish, but if they want me to have more period sex and write a detailed review of their stain removal power in exchange for an unlimited supply, I will hundy p do that shit for them.